In an interesting turn of events, I learned this lesson in CONTRAST to my friend Sullie. You see over the past few weeks I have been struggling with the idea of my 20th class reunion, and seeing an Ex there. I had talked to Sullie about my desire to reconnect with her, and her desire to spend some time with me. Sullie told me that after it was over with his ex’s, it was over. I found that to be in direct conflict with my ideas.
Here the thing, I have been in love with three women. All the break ups were terrible, and I was a bad breaker upper in each case, in some cases I was a bad in the relationship. But, in each case we have reconnected as friends. And here the thing, I love each of the three women the same way I did in the middle of our relationship.
If we had not reconnected, I would say that I still loved them.
I think love is an all or nothing word. I love you. Or I like you a lot, or I am fond of you, but I love you is something different. I think when you love, you do not really stop loving. Loving is the height of what humans can pull off in interpersonal relationships. It is what we strive for, the unconditional giving that love is.
I think often times we call a lot of other things love, but they are not love. Love is forever, and it costs nothing. Love is amazing.
I hope you all fall in love. This weekend.