Comments for My Journey Back to Health

Comment on The Ladies by John H. Fischer

John H. Fischer — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 15:03:48 +0000

What is attractive.. what is desirable…?

Those are great questions – questions their will never be answers to… after all .. you have met Mrs Rent, how did that happen?

Each person has their own preferences.

Many years ago I was dating someone from Beloit, she was 11 years older than me. One of the things that attracted her to me was my lack of maturity. I remember I was spending the weekend with her one time but she got called into work Saturday morning. When she got home… on one end of the couch was her 15-year old daughter glued to bugs bunny/road runner cartoons – which was nothing new..

but she had a hard time believing that there I was, on the other end of the couch… glued to it as well.

It was my lack of maturity that made me desirable, to her anyway…

the reason it didn’t work out is that she was a fairly devout catholic and my religious beliefs… well… they don’t jive too well with the pope’s view of the world.

Comment on The Ladies by Dino Corvino

Dino Corvino — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 04:16:37 +0000

Thanks Charles. I think it is an interesting question though. When one person looks at others, and decides what is attractive, and mature, and the like.

But thanks. The drama thing, as much as I dug or dig the girl, it was simply something I needed to make a sacrifice on.

Comment on The Ladies by edbdqt

edbdqt — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:44:55 +0000

I would disagree that children or houses or almost any tangible metrics are signifiers of maturity, at least in any macro sense. For example, I suspect the typical 15 year old with a kid would be viewed as immature, unable to control themselves or unable to understand the commitment a child entails to realize they maybe should have controlled themselves.

Maturity, to me, is a mind set consisting of the willingness to recognize what’s “really” important to one’s life (whatever that exactly means) and commit to achieving that as an end. As our lives change, I think that’s a bit of a moving target.

For example, how mature is a 75 YO guy with kids?

Anyhoo, kudos on the anti-drama. That, I think, is always a sign of maturity.

Comment on Seeing me on video sucks by Jim Rosenberg

Jim Rosenberg — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 19:48:11 +0000

It’s a choppy sea, but sometimes you end up in Greenland with no way home but a skiff my friend.

Comment on Seeing me on video sucks by Dino Corvino

Dino Corvino — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:51:59 +0000

Thank you Jim. I know all of that. But, there are some moments in the journey of life when you just want to put a snickers bar in a toaster oven and cover yourself with nougat while watching a Phillip Seymor Hoffman movie.

I have a hard time with confidence and the maintaining of it. I think my plate is often too heavy with things. And yet I feel like I get very little affirmation, which we all need from time to time.

But, yes, I am sure in a few hours, I will be better.

I think the other interesting thing is patterns.

Comment on Seeing me on video sucks by Jim Rosenberg

Jim Rosenberg — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 18:47:46 +0000

It’s easier, more productive and far more satisfying to build on strengths — and you definitely have some — than it is to constantly attack weaknesses. As build your confidence in yourself, it will naturally bring more confidence from others — a virtuous circle instead of the vicious one that you need to break out of. We all come up short, at times. Don’t let that define you. Visualize yourself at your best and then attain that vision. It can’t happen unless you can see it and you can’t see it if you focus only on faults and shortcomings.

Comment on Beyond by John H. Fischer

John H. Fischer — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:28:11 +0000

Spent – what a great word…

I know where you are coming from…

If you asked me 5 years ago, I would have said with all of the decisions I have made with my life (some of them much worse than others), there was only one that I would change had I been able to go back and decide again.

If you ask me that question now… there are 3 things I would change… and a 4th one is a firm maybe.

Those are the things that drain me… and I find myself spending way to much time either stressing over the fact those “mistakes” were made, or honestly doing my best to go back in time or at the very least undo them with the least amount of collateral damage.

Those times when I am just done… my mission becomes to make it through the next hour or so…. once I have done that… shoot for a day..

You get through it… hour by hour… day by day… you get through it with the hope that by getting through this hour, this day, that things will eventually start working out where being “spent” is less and less of your time.

Will it be?

who knows…

But I have to believe it will be or I will never make it to tomorrow.

(No need for a Hero, fairly happy with my Tour – though I have found myself spending a little too much time on Harley Davidson of Wausau’s website)

Comment on Distraction by saltpeter

saltpeter — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 14:58:20 +0000

I’m distracted by talk of watches, weight loss (other than your’s) and yeast infection. Too Salty?

Comment on Corner…turned by Dino Corvino

Dino Corvino — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 02:41:05 +0000

I agree John. I like the etch a sketch sense that goes with your consciousness. You sort of brush it all out, like a zamboni, and then you can start over.

Comment on Corner…turned by saltpeter

saltpeter — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 22:20:38 +0000

Johnny! I’ve been down that highway on the way down to the brussellsprout festival. Vette yes, Toyota truck no. I hope it was tight because a flyer over the guard rail there would not be good.

Question…what would my insurance company say if I turned in a claim for your car? It’s never happened to me, like with a rental, but it must or would be interesting.

Dino…let’s go!! If we rock now we can see the sun set in Florida tomorow! Doc, you’re swell, Thanks!